Til death do us part

 I was a skeptic before, but i reckon am a believer now..lots of good men out there, I have met a few.
Anyway, that's not what this post is about. I wrote my third exam, the last one of the economics lot and it was to say the least, "the stuff that nightmares are made of"...yes, it was that bad (sniffing)..3qns, 5essays and i was only one hundred percent sure about one..read the whole text book and still he found a way of asking questions that had me grasping at thin straws; my lecturer is a joker,not!
That aside, am trying to find something meaningful..or deep to write about, you know ,reclaim some of the dignity i lost to that ass whooping exam...feel intellectual again. So i'll go with marriage. Everyday, when i log onto my facebook, someone either got married or engaged, urm..did i not get the memo?what is with this marriage craze?! or maybe its just me.
1)Marriage: the legal status,condition or relationship that results from a contract by which one man and one woman,who have the capacity to enter into such an agreement,mutually promise to live together in the relationship of husband and wife in law for life or until the legal termination of the relationship (legal dictionary)
2)therefore shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife and they shall become one flesh (Genesis 2:24)
That said, i think alot of people today are getting married for the wrong reasons. Getting married because there's a baby on the way is one such reason. Wanting to bring a child into this world legitimately by law(inside marriage) is a noble cause, but you really should have thought about that before and when you made that baby. If marriage was on the cards before,well and good, but being coerced into marriage because of the situation you find yourselves in isn't gonna help anything. Odds are that you are still young and are not ready for marriage. some people build better relationship when they do get married, but many more feel trapped, and start to resent each other. You don't want that for yourself or the child you're about to bring into the world. Another reason is "we've been together for so long it was the next step and everyone expected it of us." It's a good enough reason but you need something more than that. You need to be in love with that person enough to want to spend the rest of your life with him or her. It's easy to mix being in love and loving someone..i reckon that difference is applied once you're married(speculating,i've never been married). Sometimes when you've been with someone for so long you take them for granted, and tend to take a lot of other things for granted too, things that might be important to the other person. You don't want to be stuck in a marriage only to realise you're in it with a friend and not a husband..not that your husband shouldn't be your friend (am i making sense?). Anyway, I guess when you know he or she is the one,you just know..3months or 10yrs later.
Now, point 1) and 2) clearly state ONE man and ONE woman..now,tell me why do most marriages today involve third n fourth parties?! clearly people aren't honouring the sanctity of marriage anymore. "I'll always go home to the wife,but it doesn't mean i can't have a lil fun with other girls"... "hubby is loving and everything,but he doesn't spoil me the way other guys do"...  You hear ish like that on the daily...ON THE DAILY. What standard are we setting for the next generation? its okay to cheat, its just a little fun, no harm done....wrong!! Seriously, if you can't keep your heart and body in one place, just don't get married. One man for one woman and vice versa, period! when you decide to get married, your days of frat boy/life of the party behaviour are over mate! once you get married to that guy, forget about other men's advances and their cheap talk. If he can disrespect your marriage by disregarding the fact that you're married, odds are the oak doesn't know right from wrong or where to draw the line..he'll disrespect you too.
Don't even get me started on girls who allow themselves to be side chic/plates (since wifey is the main chic) or men that go after other men's wives. Shame on you!! yes, I'll be judgemental about it, unless you honestly didn't know he or she was married, there is no excuse for you to be in that relationship. He will never leave his wife for you; unless of course his as much of an ass head as you are. If she leaves her husband for you, what makes you think she won't leave you too?! wise up!
That said...if you're ready,love that girl/boy, are committed and in it for the long haul..20 or 4O..wife her..marry that lad and be merry..Til death do you part!
xx